Resources

Here are some tools I've created for use with The Abba Project...

While I'd love to meet every single one of you and lead you personally through an Abba Project group, it will be some time before we've got a structure in place to make participating easy for those who don't live here in the Portland area. In the meantime, I'd love to share a few resources with you to that I use with Abba Project dads to at least get you started being more intentional with your daughters. Just click the icons below to download them for free.

1. Speak Up

This worksheet is probably the first thing I'd recommend any dad read. In it we learn some of the dynamics at work in the dad/daughter relationship which may be leading you to be silent when you should speak up. We close with specific "do's and don'ts" when it comes to what should be said and what might not be helpful.
TO SPEAK OR NOT TO SPEAK_1.pdf
click to download

2. Dad/Daughter Date Questionnaire

This handout is one that you dads can take with you on your dad/daughter date. It is a great lauching pad for guiding the conversation, starting with fun and funny questions relating to the present, such as "what item of clothing would you like to see me get rid of?!" and "tell me something I do that embarrasses you," moving to questions about the past and then the future where you can ask her about her dreams for her wedding one day. Remember the goal is to draw her out, let her talk, actively listen, and have fun together!

Nothing compares to the smile on a girls'
face when she knows she is
loved and adored by her dad!
DAD TO DAUGHTER INITIAL DATE QUESTIONS_1.pdf
click to download

3. Dating

Daughters and dating is a scary combination. Do you know the tools your daughter needs to help her engage in a healthy dating life? This worksheet will help direct you as you navigate this tricky adventure.
DATING & DEVELOPMENT_1.pdf
click to download
And if you want to take your daughter on a date with the goal of opening up deeper dialogue on the concept of dating, feel free to copy this off and lead the way with her!
DAD TO DAUGHTER QUESTIONS ON DATING_1.pdf
click to download

4. Dad/Daughter Date Questionnaire on WORDS


The family who plays together, stays together!
This dad is a great model of a dad who knows
how to engage his daughters in fun as well as
in life! Yay Dad!!

Just for the record, girls love traditions
just with their dads....and it's never too
late to start building new traditions if
this hasn't been in place before now.

5. Daughter to Dad Questionnaire 

Most daughters love hearing stories from good old dad.  If your daughter would prefer that you be on the "hot seat" by disclosing things about yourself before she is ready to open up with you, here is a list of questions that you can have your daughter ask you.  Sometimes you have to be the one to open up and model vulnerablility first before she will be ready to talk.  My goal is to help her understand what you were like at her age.  This can be fun as you put your story telling hat on!
Daughter to Dad Questions.pdf
click to download

Great Websites

The Dad Man
New website by Dads and Daughters founder Joe Kelly, features Blog, Articles and Q&A.
www.thedadman.org

The Samson Society
Online brotherhood of men seeking authenticity in life and relationship.
www.samsonsociety.com

FINDINGbalance
Hundreds of free videos and other resources to help you (and/or your daughter) eat well and live free from body image issues. Their annual Hungry for Hope conference could be a great weekend trip together if your daughter wrestles with issues like these. www.findingbalance.com

Recommended Reading

The Heart of a Father
Ken Canfield

Knowing the Heart of the Father
David Eckman

The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
Gary Chapman

Dads and Daughters
Joe Kelly

The Dads and Daughters Togetherness Guide
Joe Kelly

What A Difference A Daddy Makes The Indelible Imprint a Dad Leaves on His Daughters Life
Kevin Lehman

Father Hunger Fathers, Daughters, and the Pursuit of Thinness
Margo Maine

Strong Fathers Strong Daughters 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
Margaret Meeker

Between Fathers and Daughters
Enriching and Rebuilding Your Adult Relationship
Linda Nielson

Daughters Gone Wild, Dads Gone Crazy Battle-Tested Tips From a Father and Daughter Who Survived The Teenage Years
Charles Stone and Heather Stone

Dads Everything Book For Daughters
John Trent